Why 'Not Being Good Enough' Is a Learned Illusion

At some point in life, nearly all of us have carried the silent weight of believing we’re not good enough. Whether it arises from childhood experiences, societal pressures, or painful relationships, this belief can quietly shape our decisions, our relationships, and our sense of self-worth. But what if the idea of not being good enough isn’t true at all? What if it’s not an inherent flaw but a learned illusion, one that you can resolve? At the heart of Emotional Resolution® (EmRes®), developed by Cedric Bertelli, lies a powerful truth: you don’t have to manage emotional pain for the rest of your life. You can resolve it, permanently. That includes the nagging, conditioned belief that you’re somehow not enough.

The Origins of the "Not Good Enough" Illusion

The belief that you are not good enough doesn’t start in adulthood. It usually takes root early, during moments when your nervous system interprets certain emotional situations as threatening or unsafe. Maybe it was a parent who was too critical, or a teacher who humiliated you in front of the class. Maybe it was the slow drip of social messaging that equated your value with achievement or appearance. In those moments, your body registered a strong emotional charge, fear, shame, rejection, unworthiness and, without the means to fully process it, your system filed it away for later. That’s why years later, even as an accomplished adult, a single comment from a colleague or partner can bring a rush of self-doubt.

EmRes® and Viscero-Somatic Quieting: Your Body Holds the Key

Emotional Resolution® doesn’t ask you to "think" your way through pain. It doesn’t involve retelling traumatic stories or rewiring your mindset through repetition. Instead, EmRes® taps into the innate intelligence of your body, a process Cedric Bertelli calls viscero-somatic quieting™*. Through this process, you gently reconnect with the physical sensations that arise during emotional distress, tightness in the chest, pressure in the stomach, heat in the throat. These bodily sensations are not random. They are the somatic imprints of unprocessed emotional events. When you stay present with these sensations, without distraction or mental interpretation, your nervous system naturally completes the cycle of emotional processing. It releases what it never got to finish years ago. The result is lasting resolution, not just symptom management.

Why Traditional Methods Often Fall Short

Most of us try to cope with emotional wounds by changing how we think. We tell ourselves we’re worthy. We journal. We meditate. We attend workshops and read self-help books. And while these practices can be valuable, they often address the symptoms of emotional pain, not the root cause. That’s because the emotional charge of “not being good enough” doesn’t live in your thoughts. It lives in your body. Cedric Bertelli’s work invites a different approach, one where you stop fighting your emotions and instead feel them fully, physically, and without fear. That’s how the illusion begins to dissolve.

Releasing the Pattern of Unworthiness

Let’s take a real-life example. You’re in a meeting, and a colleague questions your idea. Instantly, your throat tightens, your heart races, and your mind spirals: I’m not smart enough. I should’ve stayed quiet. You could override this with affirmations or remind yourself that your input is valid, but the emotional response would likely return the next time you feel challenged.

With EmRes®, you would instead pause and focus inward. You’d follow the sensations in your body, without trying to change them. As your nervous system completes the emotional loop that was left unfinished in the past, the charge around these experiences softens. In time, that same trigger no longer sparks the same response. The belief loses its emotional fuel.

What Makes EmRes® Unique

Unlike many therapeutic methods that can take months or years, Emotional Resolution® is designed to create radical and lasting change in a short amount of time. Sessions can be done in person or virtually via phone or Zoom, making it accessible no matter where you live.

People who have worked with Cedric Bertelli report resolution of conditions such as:

• Anxiety and panic attacks

• Depression and low self-worth

• PTSD and trauma responses

• Chronic anger or emotional numbness

• Phobias and irrational fears

• Compulsive behaviors and procrastination

• Even physical symptoms like TMJ, back pain, eczema, and gastrointestinal issues

That’s because many of our physical ailments and emotional patterns share a common root: unresolved emotional memory.

You Were Never Broken—Just Unprocessed

The idea that you’re not good enough was never your truth. It was a reflection of unprocessed emotional moments stored in your nervous system. These moments don't define you. They are simply waiting to be completed and released.

Emotional Resolution® offers a path to do exactly that.

You don’t need to “fix” yourself. You need to remember who you were before the illusion set in. And through the process of viscero-somatic quieting™, you can.

Ready to Begin With Cedric Bertelli? 

If you’re tired of carrying the burden of emotional patterns that no longer serve you, now is the time to try something radically effective. With Emotional Resolution® sessions guided by Cedric Bertelli, you can finally lift the impact of past trauma, dissolve self-sabotaging behaviors, and return to a life of emotional freedom. Learn more or book your session at https://www.cedricbertelli.com/contact. No matter where you are in the world, resolution is within reach.

Understanding and Managing Unconscious Emotional Tensions

In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it's easy to overlook the subtle undercurrents of tension that constantly flow through us. These are not the acute stresses of a looming deadline or an impending difficult conversation but rather a more insidious form of strain that we often don't recognize because they are so woven into the fabric of our daily existence. These tensions are emotional in nature, quietly draining our "body budget," a term that encapsulates our reservoir of physical and mental energy. Understanding and managing unconscious emotional tensions can be transformative, unlocking new levels of mental clarity and creativity.

The Invisible Weight of Everyday Emotions

Every day, we are undergoing tensions, every moment, all day long. These tensions are not the pronounced emotions such as joy, fear, or anger that we readily identify and respond to. Instead, they are subtler, more pervasive, and because they are so common or not as intense, we often do not perceive them consciously. However, just because these emotional tensions are less apparent does not mean they are any less impactful. On the contrary, they are debilitating emotions, sapping our energy and constraining our mental and creative faculties.

The concept of a "body budget," as described in the realm of psychology and wellness, provides a useful framework for understanding this phenomenon. It suggests that our bodies manage a kind of budget of resources, such as energy, attention, and emotional capacity. These subtle, everyday tensions act as withdrawals from our body budget, leaving us with less to invest in activities that require mental effort, creativity, or emotional engagement.

The Environmental Triggers

Interestingly, the sources of these tensions are often found in our immediate surroundings: the objects in our homes, photos, art, and other items that populate our living and working spaces. These items, many of which we choose to surround ourselves with for their aesthetic appeal or sentimental value, can also be sources of emotional tension. They hold memories, some of which may be painful or complicated, and can trigger low-level fears or anxieties. 

The link between our emotions and our environment is profound. The spaces we inhabit are not just physical locations but emotional landscapes. Every piece of art, every photograph, every seemingly benign object has the potential to evoke an emotional response, often one that we are not consciously aware of.

The Practice of Clearing the House

To manage and mitigate the impact of these unconscious emotional tensions, I propose an exercise I call "Clearing the House." This practice involves taking a mindful tour of your living or working space and pausing to examine each photo, piece of art, and significant object. The goal is not to analyze your reaction but to simply become aware of it, to note any physical sensations or emotional responses that arise without expectation or judgment.

The process is akin to a meditative practice, where the focus is on observation and awareness rather than analysis or action. By becoming attentive to our body's reactions to the items in our environment, we might be surprised to notice that tensions rise, regardless of what we were anticipating. The key is to feel these sensations fully until they abate, acknowledging their presence and then letting them go.

The Benefits of Emotional Decluttering

What makes "Clearing the House" so powerful is its potential to bring unconscious emotional tensions into the light, allowing us to address them directly. This practice can lead to a form of emotional decluttering, where we become more conscious of the emotional impact of our environment and can make choices about how to arrange our spaces in ways that support our mental and emotional well-being.

Over time, this practice can lead to a significant reduction in the background noise of emotional tension, freeing up our "body budget" for more productive and fulfilling endeavors. It can enhance our mental clarity, boost our creativity, and improve our overall emotional resilience. By understanding and managing the unseen emotional currents that flow through our daily lives, we can create spaces that nourish rather than deplete us, environments that inspire rather than constrain.

Embracing the Journey and Seeking Emotional Resolution With Cedric Bertelli 

"Clearing the House" is more than just a one-time exercise; it's a continuous practice of becoming more attuned to the subtle interplay between our emotions and our environments. It's about recognizing that our surroundings have a profound impact on our emotional well-being and taking active steps to cultivate spaces that support and enrich us. This journey towards emotional clarity and environmental harmony can transform not just our living spaces but our lives, opening up new possibilities for creativity, connection, and well-being.

If you find yourself in need of additional support and attention when it comes to understanding and managing unconscious emotional tensions, Cedric Bertelli is here with his practice of Emotional Resolution to guide you. Embrace EmRes, and let Cedric Bertelli and this remarkable approach guide you on your path to emotional well-being and impactful change in our challenging yet hopeful world. To start a conversation today, contact us here.

Do Tough Childhoods Make Tough and Resilient Individuals or Wounded Adults?

When we hear stories of individuals overcoming adversities from their childhood to achieve great success, it's easy to be inspired and buy into the narrative that tough upbringings forge tough and resilient individuals. This perspective suggests that challenges and hardships in early life equip people with the strength and perseverance needed to navigate future obstacles. However, this oversimplified view ignores the nuanced reality of how adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) truly affect individuals throughout their lives. Today, we will explore the complex relationship between tough childhoods and adult resilience, challenging the myth of, do tough childhoods make tough resilient individuals or wounded adults? 

The Myth of Universal Resilience

The idea that all individuals who face hardship in their early years emerge as stronger and more resilient adults is a compelling narrative. It feeds into the cultural admiration for self-made success stories and the belief in the transformative power of adversity. However, this notion fails to acknowledge the full spectrum of outcomes for those who endure tough childhoods. While some individuals do develop remarkable resilience, others carry deep emotional wounds that can hinder their well-being and functionality as adults.

Understanding Resilience and Vulnerability

Resilience is often misunderstood as a universal trait that individuals either possess or lack. In reality, resilience is a dynamic and multifaceted quality that can vary greatly among individuals and even within an individual over time. It is influenced by a combination of genetic, environmental, and personal factors. Similarly, vulnerability to the negative impacts of a challenging upbringing is not a sign of weakness but a natural human response to prolonged stress and trauma.

The Role of Support Systems

One of the critical factors that can influence whether a tough childhood leads to resilience or enduring pain is the presence of supportive relationships and environments. Children who face adversity but have access to caring adults, safe spaces, and positive experiences are more likely to develop the tools they need to cope with stress and bounce back from challenges. In contrast, those who lack such support systems are at a greater risk of experiencing lasting negative effects.

The Spectrum of Responses to Adversity

The impact of a challenging upbringing on an individual's adult life can vary widely. Some people emerge with a strong sense of determination and adaptability, while others may struggle with trust issues, emotional regulation, or mental health disorders. It is crucial to recognize that there is no one-size-fits-all response to adversity and that each person's journey is unique.

Debunking the Myth

To truly understand the relationship between tough childhoods and adult resilience, it is essential to move beyond simplistic narratives. Recognizing the complexity of human development and the interplay of various factors that influence our responses to adversity allows for a more compassionate and nuanced perspective. Rather than glorifying tough childhoods as crucibles of strength, it is important to acknowledge the pain and struggle they can cause and to emphasize the importance of support, healing, and growth.

The Importance of Addressing Childhood Adversity

Given the potential long-term impacts of adverse childhood experiences, it is vital for society to invest in prevention and intervention efforts. Providing children with stable, supportive, and nurturing environments can help mitigate the negative effects of early adversity. Additionally, offering accessible mental health services and fostering communities that understand and respond to the needs of those who have experienced childhood trauma can promote healing and resilience.

The Neurological Consequences of Childhood Environments: Insights from Boris Cyrulnik

Boris Cyrulnik, a noted figure in neurology and psychiatry, elucidates the profound impact of childhood environments on brain development. He explains that children raised without affection and safety are neurologically wired to process experiences with heightened sensitivity to distress and anger, due to the predominant engagement of the amygdala. This wiring predisposes them to perceive life through lenses of suffering and cynicism.

In contrast, those nurtured in supportive and joyful settings tend to develop neural pathways that favor the nucleus accumbens, fostering positive emotions and a rewarding perception of life. Cyrulnik's perspective highlights the crucial role of early experiences in shaping our emotional well-being and underscores the importance of providing children with loving, safe, and enriching environments for healthier psychological development. To listen to more on this topic, check out my youtube short here. 

Emotional Resolution With Cedric Bertelli 

While it is true that some individuals who face tough childhoods develop remarkable resilience, it is equally important to acknowledge those who continue to struggle with the aftermath of their early experiences. The myth of universal resilience oversimplifies the diverse and complex ways in which people respond to adversity. By recognizing the full spectrum of outcomes and the importance of supportive relationships and environments, we can foster a more empathetic and informed approach to addressing the challenges posed by tough childhoods. Ultimately, it is through understanding, support, and compassion that we can help all individuals, regardless of their past, to build a resilient and fulfilling future.

If you find yourself in need of additional support and attention when it comes to troubles you faced in your childhood, Cedric Bertelli is here to help you lift your past trauma with Emotional Resolution. Embrace EmRes, and let Cedric Bertelli and this remarkable approach guide you on your path to emotional well-being and impactful change in our challenging yet hopeful world. To start a conversation today, contact us here.

Understanding Stress vs. Anxiety

Stress and anxiety are two common emotional states that we all experience at some point in our lives. While they may seem similar, they are distinct in their nature and effects on our mental and physical well-being. In this blog post, we will explore the differences as well as understanding stress vs. anxiety, the role of the brain in generating them, and how to manage these emotions effectively with practices like EmRes.

Stress: A Natural Response

Stress is a natural and often necessary response to challenging or unfamiliar situations. It is the brain's way of preparing us to deal with threats or demands. When we encounter a new or unexpected situation, our brain activates a stress response. This response triggers the release of stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol, which prepare our body to take action.

Hyper Awareness, Not Debilitating Fear

Healthy stress is not meant to be a debilitating fear. Instead, it should be experienced as a state of hyper-awareness. Think of the feeling you get when you enter an unknown place, like a new city or a foreign country. Your senses become heightened, and you become more alert to your surroundings. This heightened awareness can help you adapt and respond effectively to the new environment.

The Role of Prediction in Stress

One key aspect of stress is prediction. Stress is generated by the brain when it has no previous model to predict from. In other words, when we encounter a situation we've never experienced before, our brain doesn't have a set of established patterns to rely on. This lack of predictability can trigger the stress response.

For example, if you're about to give a presentation on a topic you've never presented before, your brain may interpret this as a stressful situation because it can't predict how it will go. However, as you gain experience and confidence in public speaking, the stress response tends to diminish because your brain can now predict the outcome with greater accuracy.

Anxiety: Unnecessary Fear

While stress is a natural response to novel or challenging situations, anxiety is a different beast altogether. Anxiety is a state of unnecessary fear and apprehension. It often arises from the anticipation of future events or situations, even if there is no immediate threat.

The brain's role in anxiety is complex. It involves overactive thinking patterns and a heightened sense of danger. Unlike stress, which can be a response to a real and present challenge, anxiety is often fueled by irrational fears and excessive worry about what might happen in the future.

Managing Stress and Anxiety with EmRes

Emotional Resolution (EmRes) is a powerful tool for managing both unhealthy stress and anxiety effectively. EmRes is based on the principle that unresolved emotions and traumatic experiences can contribute to unnecessary stress and anxiety. By resolving these emotions, individuals can experience relief from their symptoms. New situations can often create stress as well as fear. Fears can certainly be resolved with EmRes. When fears are resolved through EmRes, a patient may find that they are left with a healthy and somewhat exhilarating feeling of stress.

EmRes involves a guided process of identifying and releasing stored emotional tension in the body. This can be particularly helpful for individuals who struggle with chronic stress or anxiety, as it addresses the root causes of these emotional states.

Practical Tips for Managing Stress and Anxiety:

1. Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness meditation and breathing exercises can help you stay grounded and reduce the impact of stress and anxiety

2. Exercise Regularly: Physical activity releases endorphins, which are natural mood lifters. Regular exercise can reduce stress and anxiety levels.

3. Seek Support: Talking to an EmRes Practitioner like Cedric Bertelli can provide valuable tools and strategies for managing stress and anxiety.

4. Prioritize Self-Care: Taking care of your physical and emotional needs is essential for managing stress and anxiety. Ensure you get enough sleep, eat well, and engage in activities you enjoy.

Emotional Resolution with Cedric Bertelli 

In summary, understanding stress vs. anxiety and that they are distinct emotional states that have different triggers and effects on our well-being is crucial. Stress is a natural response to challenging situations and can be experienced as a state of hyper-awareness. Anxiety, on the other hand, is unnecessary fear and worry about future events.

Emotional Resolution (EmRes) is a valuable tool for managing both stress and anxiety by addressing unresolved emotions used by professionals like Cedric Bertelli. Additionally, mindfulness, exercise, seeking support and self-care can all be effective strategies for managing these emotions and improving overall mental health.

By understanding stress vs. anxiety and employing these strategies, individuals can lead healthier and more fulfilling lives. Embrace EmRes, and let Cedric Bertelli guide you on a path of emotional well-being by managing your feelings of stress and anxiety. To start a conversation with Cedric today, contact him here. 

How to Live in This World as an Empath

In today's world, filled with conflicts, environmental challenges, and the relentless exploitation of Earth's resources, living as an empath can be particularly challenging. Empaths, often characterized by their heightened sensitivity to the emotions and energies of others, can easily become overwhelmed by the constant negativity and stress that surrounds them. However, there is hope for empaths to not only survive but thrive in this complex world. One solution lies in resolving our fears with EmRes (Emotional Resolution), a powerful technique that can help empaths maintain their emotional well-being while still being effective agents of change.

The Empath's Dilemma

Empaths possess a unique gift of empathy, allowing them to connect with others on a profound level. They often feel the pain, suffering, and joy of those around them as if it were their own. While this empathy is a beautiful trait, it can also be a double-edged sword, especially in a world filled with conflicts, environmental crises, and social injustices.

Empaths often find themselves absorbing the negative emotions and energies of others, which can lead to emotional exhaustion, anxiety, and even physical ailments. Furthermore, the overwhelming scale of global issues can leave empaths feeling helpless and despondent, wondering how they can possibly make a difference.

The Power of EmRes for Empaths

Here's how EmRes can benefit empaths and help them become effective agents of change:

1. Embracing Emotional Balance: EmRes helps empaths confront and resolve their own fears and emotional triggers. By doing so, they can achieve a state of emotional equilibrium that allows them to respond to external stressors more effectively.

2. Protecting Their Energy: EmRes teaches empaths to establish healthy emotional boundaries, preventing them from becoming overly permeable to the emotions of others. This newfound boundary-setting can shield empaths from emotional exhaustion.

3. Channeling Empathy for Change: Rather than being paralyzed by the pain and suffering in the world, empaths can use their empathetic abilities as a driving force for positive change. EmRes can help them channel their empathy into constructive actions and advocacy.

4. Fostering Resilience: Emotional resilience gained through EmRes allows empaths to bounce back from setbacks and challenges. This resilience is crucial for maintaining their well-being in a world where conflicts and crises are prevalent.

5. Creating Emotional Space: EmRes provides empaths with the tools to release and heal past traumas, freeing up emotional space for personal growth, empathy, and compassion toward themselves and others.

6. Enhancing Empathetic Connections: By addressing their own emotional wounds, empaths can form healthier, more balanced relationships with those they seek to help, fostering more authentic connections and effective communication.

7. Leading by Example: Empaths who have embraced EmRes can serve as powerful examples of emotional healing and resilience, inspiring others to follow suit and create a ripple effect of positive change.

How to Start with EmRes

If you're an empath looking to incorporate EmRes into your life, here are some steps to get started:

1. Learn about EmRes: Research EmRes and consider seeking guidance from a certified EmRes practitioner or therapist like Cedric Bertelli to learn the technique effectively.

2. Self-Reflection: Take time to identify your own fears, emotional triggers, and unresolved issues. Understanding your emotional landscape is the first step toward healing.

3. Practice Mindfulness: Engage in mindfulness and meditation techniques to stay grounded and present, helping you manage overwhelming emotions more effectively.

4. Set Boundaries: Establish clear emotional boundaries with others to protect your energy and prevent emotional overload.

5. Take Action: Use your newfound emotional resilience to engage in actions that promote positive change in the areas that matter most to you, whether it's environmental conservation, social justice, or personal well-being.

Embracing Change and Empowerment

In conclusion, for empaths grappling with the complexities of our world, embracing Emotional Resolution (EmRes) with the guidance of experts like Cedric Bertelli can be a transformative journey. This innovative technique empowers empaths to find emotional balance, set healthy boundaries, and channel their empathetic gifts into becoming effective agents of change. Through EmRes, empaths not only heal themselves but also serve as beacons of resilience and compassion, inspiring a ripple effect of positive transformation in a world in need of empathy and healing. Embrace EmRes, and let Cedric Bertelli and this remarkable approach guide you on your path to emotional well-being and impactful change in our challenging yet hopeful world. To start a conversation today, contact us here.