Why 'Not Being Good Enough' Is a Learned Illusion

At some point in life, nearly all of us have carried the silent weight of believing we’re not good enough. Whether it arises from childhood experiences, societal pressures, or painful relationships, this belief can quietly shape our decisions, our relationships, and our sense of self-worth. But what if the idea of not being good enough isn’t true at all? What if it’s not an inherent flaw but a learned illusion, one that you can resolve? At the heart of Emotional Resolution® (EmRes®), developed by Cedric Bertelli, lies a powerful truth: you don’t have to manage emotional pain for the rest of your life. You can resolve it, permanently. That includes the nagging, conditioned belief that you’re somehow not enough.

The Origins of the "Not Good Enough" Illusion

The belief that you are not good enough doesn’t start in adulthood. It usually takes root early, during moments when your nervous system interprets certain emotional situations as threatening or unsafe. Maybe it was a parent who was too critical, or a teacher who humiliated you in front of the class. Maybe it was the slow drip of social messaging that equated your value with achievement or appearance. In those moments, your body registered a strong emotional charge, fear, shame, rejection, unworthiness and, without the means to fully process it, your system filed it away for later. That’s why years later, even as an accomplished adult, a single comment from a colleague or partner can bring a rush of self-doubt.

EmRes® and Viscero-Somatic Quieting: Your Body Holds the Key

Emotional Resolution® doesn’t ask you to "think" your way through pain. It doesn’t involve retelling traumatic stories or rewiring your mindset through repetition. Instead, EmRes® taps into the innate intelligence of your body, a process Cedric Bertelli calls viscero-somatic quieting™*. Through this process, you gently reconnect with the physical sensations that arise during emotional distress, tightness in the chest, pressure in the stomach, heat in the throat. These bodily sensations are not random. They are the somatic imprints of unprocessed emotional events. When you stay present with these sensations, without distraction or mental interpretation, your nervous system naturally completes the cycle of emotional processing. It releases what it never got to finish years ago. The result is lasting resolution, not just symptom management.

Why Traditional Methods Often Fall Short

Most of us try to cope with emotional wounds by changing how we think. We tell ourselves we’re worthy. We journal. We meditate. We attend workshops and read self-help books. And while these practices can be valuable, they often address the symptoms of emotional pain, not the root cause. That’s because the emotional charge of “not being good enough” doesn’t live in your thoughts. It lives in your body. Cedric Bertelli’s work invites a different approach, one where you stop fighting your emotions and instead feel them fully, physically, and without fear. That’s how the illusion begins to dissolve.

Releasing the Pattern of Unworthiness

Let’s take a real-life example. You’re in a meeting, and a colleague questions your idea. Instantly, your throat tightens, your heart races, and your mind spirals: I’m not smart enough. I should’ve stayed quiet. You could override this with affirmations or remind yourself that your input is valid, but the emotional response would likely return the next time you feel challenged.


With EmRes®, you would instead pause and focus inward. You’d follow the sensations in your body, without trying to change them. As your nervous system completes the emotional loop that was left unfinished in the past, the charge around these experiences softens. In time, that same trigger no longer sparks the same response. The belief loses its emotional fuel.

What Makes EmRes® Unique

Unlike many therapeutic methods that can take months or years, Emotional Resolution® is designed to create radical and lasting change in a short amount of time. Sessions can be done in person or virtually via phone or Zoom, making it accessible no matter where you live.


People who have worked with Cedric Bertelli report resolution of conditions such as:



That’s because many of our physical ailments and emotional patterns share a common root: unresolved emotional memory.

You Were Never Broken—Just Unprocessed

The idea that you’re not good enough was never your truth. It was a reflection of unprocessed emotional moments stored in your nervous system. These moments don't define you. They are simply waiting to be completed and released.


Emotional Resolution® offers a path to do exactly that.


You don’t need to “fix” yourself. You need to remember who you were before the illusion set in. And through the process of viscero-somatic quieting™, you can.

Ready to Begin With Cedric Bertelli? 

If you’re tired of carrying the burden of emotional patterns that no longer serve you, now is the time to try something radically effective. With Emotional Resolution® sessions guided by Cedric Bertelli, you can finally lift the impact of past trauma, dissolve self-sabotaging behaviors, and return to a life of emotional freedom. Learn more or book your session at https://www.cedricbertelli.com/contact. No matter where you are in the world, resolution is within reach.