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Supporting Parents Navigating the Depths of Shame

Parenthood, a journey abundant with love and growth, also harbors shadows that many parents find themselves wrestling with — the silent adversary named shame. A pervasive feeling that can seep into the most vulnerable corners of a parent's heart, casting doubt and self-judgment. In ‘Supporting Parents Navigating the Depths of Shame’, we delve into the ways in which we can collectively foster an environment of support, empathy, and understanding for parents navigating the complex terrain of shame.

Understanding the Roots of Parental Shame:

Parental shame often emerges from the unrealistic expectation of perfection. Societal standards, the curated images on social media, and, at times, our own internal narratives contribute to the notion that flawless parenting is not only achievable but expected. The first step in dismantling the roots of shame is recognizing that no parent is without flaws, and each parenting journey is unique.

Creating a Judgment-Free Zone:

One of the most impactful ways to support parents dealing with shame is to create a judgment-free zone. Whether within friend circles, family gatherings, or online communities, fostering an environment where parents feel safe to share their struggles without fear of condemnation is essential. Judgment-free spaces not only validate the experiences of parents but also encourage open dialogue and the sharing of valuable insights.

Encouraging Vulnerability:

You may find while supporting parents navigating the depths of shame that shame often thrives in secrecy. Encouraging vulnerability within parenting communities can be transformative. When parents share their challenges and triumphs, they break down the walls of isolation that shame builds. This openness not only reassures parents that they are not alone in their struggles but also serves as a reminder that vulnerability is not a weakness but a courageous act of self-compassion.

Promoting Self-Compassion:

Self-compassion is a powerful antidote to shame. As a society, we can actively promote and normalize self-compassion practices among parents. Acknowledging that everyone makes mistakes, emphasizing the importance of self-care, and celebrating the efforts of parents — not just the outcomes — are crucial steps. When parents cultivate self-compassion, they are better equipped to navigate challenges without the heavy burden of shame.

Providing Accessible Resources:

Ensuring that parents have access to resources that address shame is vital. Whether it's books, articles, podcasts, or local support groups, having readily available tools empowers parents to proactively manage and overcome feelings of shame. These resources should emphasize the universality of the parenting experience and provide practical strategies for navigating the inevitable bumps along the way.

Emphasizing the Uniqueness of Each Parenting Journey:

Every parent's journey is unique, shaped by individual circumstances, cultural backgrounds, and personal values. Because of this, supporting parents navigating the depths of shame will look different for each parent as well. Emphasizing this diversity not only helps break down unrealistic standards but also encourages parents to embrace their unique paths. Celebrating differences and recognizing that there is no one-size-fits-all approach fosters an inclusive environment that uplifts parents rather than fueling shame.

Navigating the Maze of Parental Guilt:

In addition to shame, guilt is a common emotion that parents often grapple with. Guilt, distinct yet interconnected with shame, arises from actions or thoughts that parents believe have fallen short of their own or others' expectations. This emotion can manifest in various forms, such as feeling guilty for not spending enough time with children, for working too much, or even for the parenting choices made. It's crucial to address guilt in the parenting journey, as it can significantly impact a parent's mental health and the family dynamic. By acknowledging and discussing guilt openly, we can help parents understand that feeling guilty does not make them bad parents. Instead, it underscores their deep care and commitment to their children. Creating a supportive environment where parents can express and work through their feelings of guilt is essential for fostering a healthy, guilt-free approach to parenting. This includes sharing experiences, offering reassurance, and providing resources that help parents navigate and alleviate guilt. Ultimately, by tackling the twin challenges of shame and guilt, we can empower parents to embrace their parenting journey with more confidence, compassion, and self-forgiveness.

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Encouraging Professional Support:

Sometimes, the weight of shame can become overwhelming, and seeking professional support is a courageous step toward healing. As a society, we can contribute to destigmatizing therapy and counseling for parents. Encouraging open conversations about mental health and making these services accessible can be transformative for those grappling with shame.

Emotional Resolution with Cedric Bertelli 

Supporting parents in overcoming feelings of shame requires a collective and sustained effort. By fostering understanding, promoting vulnerability, and emphasizing self-compassion, we can create communities where parents feel seen, heard, and valued. Let's break the chains of shame together, cultivating an environment where the imperfect journey of parenthood is not only accepted but celebrated. In doing so, we empower parents to navigate the highs and lows with resilience, strength, and a profound sense of self-acceptance. After all, it takes a village, not just to raise a child, but to uplift and support the parents on their remarkable journey. Through empathy and compassion, we can collectively rewrite the narrative of parenting — one that embraces imperfections and cherishes the resilience it takes to navigate the beautiful complexities of raising the next generation.


If you or someone you know is struggling with feelings of shame as a parent, know that these feelings are normal and valid. Know that you are not in this alone, and professional support like Emotional Resolution with Cedric Bertelli is here to support you. Whether it be support for you, or looking for assistance in supporting a parent in your life, you can find a friend in Cedric to help. To learn more about Cedric Bertelli or to schedule a session, click HERE.